Scorpio Blog (11/16/11): “When people show you who they are ... believe them!”



"When people show you who they are ... believe them!”

- Oprah Winfrey

A few weeks ago I was having dinner at a restaurant with my daughter and my mother. We found a table outside on the patio to enjoy the beautiful fall weather and listen to the live music that was playing.

Sitting at the table in front of us, were two men who were around my age. It appeared that they were taking advantage of the happy hour specials and seemed to be enjoying themselves.

I noticed they were looking around a lot and checking out the women, but as the evening went on it was pretty much... rubbernecking. One had a wedding ring on, the other did not.

My daughter was next to our table dancing to the music, with the radiant energy of her charismatic 4yr old spirit. The man (wearing the wedding ring) came over to our table on his way to the restroom and looked at me in this “trying to be charming” manner and remarked on how cute my daughter was; and then proceeded to brag about his 5 yr old that he had at home.

In my mind I was thinking that was his pickup line was a pity and that some details are better left to him. I think he was trying to use this as a charming fact, but given his behavior it really wasn’t working for him. I could just see his wife at home taking care of their little boy, while daddy “worked late”.  

Anyway, he walks by on his way back from the restroom, smiles and he sits back down at his table in font of us. As my mom and I continue with our conversation, I look over at them and I notice…he had taken off his wedding ring!

OMG! I was so astonished! Seriously, did that just happen?

There are cheaters, those who pretend to not be married, and even those who pretend to be miserable and on their way out of their marriage… but I had never seen someone with my own eyes in the act of such blatant DECEPTION!

They started making phone calls and openly more confident with their “prospects”. Well, I have to admit that these guys were entertaining for my mom and me to watch. As the night went on and as they had more drinks, the rubber in their necks was more like... silly putty.

After we left the restaurant, I thought about what I had witnessed. I questioned why I saw that man take off his wedding ring. The way it happened was way too ordered. He sat perfectly in our vantage point. And the fact that I would take notice of such (before and after) detail was remarkable to me.

So, I kept hearing my heart telling me to pay attention to what I saw. Sure it was entertaining and the shock value was a 9, but something was telling me it was more than that. Perhaps this was a sign from the Universe reminding me to keep my eyes wide open. Perhaps this was a gentle reminder that people are not always what they seem, Mara.

Almost immediately after the episode I witnessed at the restaurant, I began to receive information about people in my own life. And this “information” was essentially TRUTHS that were concealed from me…omissions that were meant to distort the complete truth.

Over the next month, I would receive MORE information. The funny thing was that I wasn’t looking for the information; it was almost like it came TO me.

As I digested the details, my feelings moved from shock and surprise… to sadness and disappointment… to feelings of…DECEPTION.

Deception is another one of those interestingly loaded words. Deception is about intent… It is intentional management of spoken and/or unspoken messages so that the recipient will believe in a way that the other person knows is FALSE.

Whether the deception is in the form of lies, equivocations, concealments, exaggerations, understatements… bottom line, there is omission of the TRUTH.

Sometimes, information can help to set us free. Our HEART may be telling us to let go, but we have to be ready. Our heart’s whisper will grow louder and there are likely SIGNS telling us what we need to do. Eventually, the Universe will have no other option but to literally hand deliver the messages with such clarity we cannot ignore.

It reminds me of one of my favorite quote’s, from Oprah’s final show:

"I have felt the presence of God my whole life. Even when I didn't have a name for it, I could feel the voice bigger than myself speaking to me, and all of us have that same voice. Be still and know it. You can acknowledge it or not. You can worship it or not. You can praise it, you can ignore it or you can know it. Know it. It's always there speaking to you and waiting for you to hear it in every move, in every decision. I wait and I listen. I'm still—I wait and listen for the guidance that's greater than my meager mind...

 

"The only time I've ever made mistakes is when I didn't listen. So what I know is, God is love and God is life, and your life is always speaking to you. First, in whispers... It's subtle, those whispers. And if you don't pay attention to the whispers, it gets louder and louder. It's like getting thumped upside the head, like my grandmother used to do. ... You don't pay attention to that; it's like getting a brick upside your head. You don't pay attention to that, the whole brick wall falls down. That's the pattern I've seen in my life, and it's played out over and over again on this show….

 

“Whispers are always messages, and if you don't hear the message, the message turns into a problem. And if you don't handle the problem, the problem turns into a crisis. And if you don't handle the crisis, disaster. Your life is speaking to you. What is it saying?"

 

 

For every deceiver, there’s one who’s been deceived. And vice-versa. 

What I do know is that deception isn’t love… and if something isn’t love, then it isn’t real. And if it’s not real… you’re heart knows it. Maybe you aren’t ready to accept it, but deep down the truth is waiting… waiting to set you free.

Often, it is the external “information” and “signs” that will provide us with varying degrees of CLARITY… but the truth is internal and the answers are ALWAYS within. It’s just a matter of timing; it’s a matter of when we are ready to accept the TRUTH.

If it doesn’t feel good, something about the equation isn’t real…A gentle nudge that love is missing.

Life is a truth-seeking journey. We are here in this life to discover who we are and to give back to the Universe with the gifts we were given at birth. We have teachers and lessons all around us, all the time. Embrace the journey. Marinate in it. Live, Love, BE. For we are given this, a beautiful opportunity...for growth, expansion and to experience a life of and in LOVE.

And I’ll leave you with one more quote. It’s a quote that first resonated with me 8 months ago, and while it has taken on a whole new meaning with time, it resonates with me today.

“I've come to believe that there exists in the universe something I call "The Physics of The Quest"- a force of nature governed by laws as real as the laws gravity or momentum.

And the rule of Quest Physics maybe goes like this: "If you are brave enough to leave behind everything familiar and comforting (which can be anything from your house to your bitter old resentments) and set out on a truth-seeking journey (either externally or internally), and if you are truly willing to regard everything that happens to you on that journey as a clue, and if you accept everyone you meet along the way as a teacher, and if you are prepared - most of all -to face (and forgive) some very difficult realities about yourself.... then truth will not be withheld from you." Or so I've come to believe.” ― Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love

 

Well, whether you are seeking the TRUTH or hiding from it …know that you are love and you are loved. And remember…regardless of what side of the deception “wall” you are hiding, remember that the only thing that is real…is love. Everything else is merely an illusion.

And when you are ready to stop hiding, and are ready to trust your heart and God Universe… just recognize that it’s the truth that will set you free.

With Love and Light and Truth,

Mara:)